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hermionesviolin) wrote2005-10-24 12:04 am
hermionesviolin) wrote2005-10-24 12:04 am
Entry tags:
sex and religion
I read Lauren Winner's Real Sex a while back and sadly got no discussion on it. [Note: I get comments e-mailed to me, so you can always comment on old stuff of mine. And anything of interest is likely in my Memories.] The topic of sex-having has come up yet again on the flist, so I'm making a poll. Clarifications are delineated beneath the poll.
[P.S. Speaking of polls: Layna, you can tell Chris that Charging Rhinos beat the U.S. Supreme Court 9-8 if we don't count my vote, though my parents both voted for Charging Rhinos though they're not represented in the LJ poll.]
[Poll #596927]
The poll is spurred by knowing so many people who identify as some flavor of Christian and yet don't seem to have any qualms about having sex. I grew up in a Christian tradition, and NO SEX outside marriage always seemed a full-stop for me [though I honestly can't point to any specific instances of that being taught], so I'm curious about this disconnect (hence the poll lumping together everyone who does not have religious prohibitions on non-marital sex).
I know non-hetero couples in most states/countries don't have official legal marriage as an option, but I tend to think that replacing "marriage" with "relationship both parties have (publically) committed to intending to be permanent" works fine for having the non-marital sex discussion. So please read "non-marital" in the poll as appropriate shorthand.
As for whether or not you are part of a religious tradition . . . I trust your judgement. If you go to Mass because your parents make you but actually you're an atheist, I think the "not a part of" option is yours. If you identify yourself as Catholic even though you disagree with the official line on a number of issues, pick from one of the first three.
The would/would not question is intended as a hypothetical. I'm purposely being good and not doing the nosy "Have you had non-marital sex?" question (though honestly, I already know the answer for most of the people on my flist) but if you wanna elaborate in comments with personal experience, I'm not gonna tell you not to. I pretty much don't have a TMI threshhold, so share or not as you wish. And obviously if you wanna e-mail me privately, go for it. I am not gonna bother screening comments on this post, though.
Some of you are currently married, but I trust you to be able to think hypothetically (or not so hypothetically if you're poly).
Basically, I trust you all to be intelligent people. Please do let me know if I should clarify anything about this poll, though.
[P.S. Speaking of polls: Layna, you can tell Chris that Charging Rhinos beat the U.S. Supreme Court 9-8 if we don't count my vote, though my parents both voted for Charging Rhinos though they're not represented in the LJ poll.]
[Poll #596927]
The poll is spurred by knowing so many people who identify as some flavor of Christian and yet don't seem to have any qualms about having sex. I grew up in a Christian tradition, and NO SEX outside marriage always seemed a full-stop for me [though I honestly can't point to any specific instances of that being taught], so I'm curious about this disconnect (hence the poll lumping together everyone who does not have religious prohibitions on non-marital sex).
I know non-hetero couples in most states/countries don't have official legal marriage as an option, but I tend to think that replacing "marriage" with "relationship both parties have (publically) committed to intending to be permanent" works fine for having the non-marital sex discussion. So please read "non-marital" in the poll as appropriate shorthand.
As for whether or not you are part of a religious tradition . . . I trust your judgement. If you go to Mass because your parents make you but actually you're an atheist, I think the "not a part of" option is yours. If you identify yourself as Catholic even though you disagree with the official line on a number of issues, pick from one of the first three.
The would/would not question is intended as a hypothetical. I'm purposely being good and not doing the nosy "Have you had non-marital sex?" question (though honestly, I already know the answer for most of the people on my flist) but if you wanna elaborate in comments with personal experience, I'm not gonna tell you not to. I pretty much don't have a TMI threshhold, so share or not as you wish. And obviously if you wanna e-mail me privately, go for it. I am not gonna bother screening comments on this post, though.
Some of you are currently married, but I trust you to be able to think hypothetically (or not so hypothetically if you're poly).
Basically, I trust you all to be intelligent people. Please do let me know if I should clarify anything about this poll, though.