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These two recent stories cover a lot of the bases of Us -- or maybe more accurately many of the bases of who my excellent human is? #Both

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Monday, Thom tried on a ModCloth dress she'd bought and was trying to decide if she should order a size smaller. She started a "Thom's Abby's Fashion Questions" group chat with me and some other mutual friends, and in that said:
See also, the distinction I’m trying to learn between “this is cute and it fits on my body” and “this is cute on me”.

[...]

Okay. I realized that ModCloth doesn’t do exchanges, just returns. So I will maybe size-sample and order the size down, then return whichever one I like less.
Tuesday afternoon, in private chat:
Thom:

Unrelated to pretty much anything, if modcloth is problematic, I don’t want to know. 🙉

I was looking for the order tracking for my size down, and I rediscovered the Wedding Dress BOGO email exchange we had in May of last year. 😂

I don’t think we’re super likely to do traditional white, but I would totally wear this dress for Something Small: https://modcloth.com/collections/wedding/products/twist-of-elate-maxi-dress-white

/me just realized it comes in other colors 😂

me:

"Dearly beloved: We invite you to attend any of our 4 Something Smalls. Please dress to coordinate with the femme bride, whose outfits are pictured below."

Thom:

😍😍😍

Person: “Uh, you can just do one Something Large. Covid restrictions have been lifted."

Abby: “Excuse me, did you not see the FOUR different outfits?"


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And from a group chat this afternoon:
Chawntelle:

I also don't love the label gay, bc I'm not, but it trends with the youth

So I go with it when they use it

I know they generally mean it to be inclusive

me:

Oh, have the youths pivoted back to that? /me is a geriatric millennial who is largely out of touch with the youths since I quit Tumblr

Chawntelle:

Sure seems like it

Some of the mid-millenials, too

me:

/nods

I mean, I feel like "gay" has been used as an inclusive GLB term off-and-on my whole life -- so even though I'm bi/queer, I've softened on my pedantry somewhat in my old age and will often respond to posts like the "gay awakening" one you shared without even blinking.

Thom:

I’m kind of ambivalent about gay as an umbrella term. But it’s short and pithy so I’ll use it.

I mean, I prefer “queer” as an umbrella term, but not everyone under the larger LGBTQIA+ umbrella wants to be called “queer”, either. 🤷🏻‍♀️

And as Elizabeth and I have discussed, “queer” has political connotations that “gay” as umbrella term doesn’t necessarily carry.

Like, if I’m being pithy, gay people want same-sex marriage; queer people want the state to get out of their relationships.

Gay people think trans criminals should go to the prison associated with their actual gender; queer people want to abolish prisons.

(Okay, that’s maybe my personal bias showing.)

me:

I appreciate my queer AF abolitionist illegal fuckwife 😘

Thom:

I want to type “gay people want body cameras and civilian oversight boards;…” but now I’m just being a troll.

me:

We decided on a "bridge" React since there's no Troll emoji, right?
🌉

Date: 2021-06-24 10:57 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] lunabee34
Those dresses are really pretty.

Date: 2021-06-26 11:43 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] lunabee34
Excellent taste, clearly.

:)

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