"We didn't go to Harvard / No we don't like Crimson and we didn't get in"

[hermionesviolin]

Have you ever thought about how much other people's opinions of you affect your opinions of them? How you're much more inclined to like a person if that person is nice to you or praises your work or something, and you're much more inclined to dislike a person if that person avoids talking to you or whatever. And then this works to some degree by extension, that you don't like people who hurt your loved ones but if people are good to and appreciative of your loved ones, well then they obviously have good taste and character and you're much more inclined to like them.

Comments

affirmation from mommy

[(Anonymous)]

that "not liking people who are unkind to someone you love" works particularly strongly (?) with intimates -- anyone who has hurt my mom, my partner, my kids, my best friend....out come the claws.

Another Opinion

[jb-503.livejournal.com]

That can have negative effects also. Whenever Liz dosen't like someone, I kinda feel like I shouldn't like them either. This creates a conflict because I do end up really liking these people,
but afraid to tell Liz that.