"We can talk about disaster and admire the scenery"

[hermionesviolin]

Can you know someone so well after only a year or so, talk to them so much (and read each others' LiveJournal) that you run out of things to talk about? I suppose it's partly because it's finals time so no one has much of anything interesting going on in their lives to talk about. But still, this is weird. To sit in each other's company with nothing to say. And of course we’re bad at the "Lemme think of what i don't know about you that i would like to know."

And i don't feel like we know each other amazingly well, not like say my best friend in high school whom i had known since kindergarten. (How important is it to know someone's history? i wonder. I mean, it's interesting, but i wonder how important it is to understand a person, to "know" a person.) We don't have the shared history, but we're pretty up-to-date with the day-to-day (thanks to LiveJournal and living in the same house thereby seeing each other frequently). And i'm sure there's plenty about our personalities, belief systems, whatever, that we don't know about each other, but it's weird to have to ask, to think "what would be interesting/useful/informative/whatever to know about this person?"

And then i wonder how much of this is just true of friendships in general, how you know the surface daily stuff, but you don't learn the other stuff except when it comes up, so shared history is important that way, in that it is only as your shared history develops that you learn these things.