I think it's possible that *I* sexualize almost every interaction (from my end) which makes it all the more ironic that I don't assume the same of everyone I encounter (esp. given my tendency to project). And I really do get neurotic and overanalyze interactions/people... and yet I still am somehow more capable of objectivity etc. than my peers (at least sometimes; I wouldn't want to base such a sweeping statement off this single slice of life). That's kind of scary when I think about it.

More and more I'm coming to the conclusion that the stance of Cailin et al comes from certain conceptions about how males are in the world, which frustrates me on a number of levels -- it's inaccurate, generalizations bother me, essentialism often discomfits me, it reflects poorly on males (which brings up lots of other issues for me), etc.

y/our years of struggle are only just now paying off? I thought I'd been doing fairly well for a while now ;)