The pastor chatted with me a bit afterward, but I didn't get a hug, and I was wondering last week as well, how do people like sk8eeyore get these close mentor people? Pastors are always so busy with everything, on the way from the train station I was thinking, "I'm not sweet/clever/interesting/whatever *enough* to merit the extra effort." This of course goes back to my issues making friends more generally.

Well, I generally have to throw myself in people's paths in order to make them take notice of me, and even then I usually become frustrated with the lack of actual meaningful interactions - see my perrenial frustration with the ministerpeople and their lack of investment in helping make me better, etc. So I don't think it's you at all - ministers are busy; some of us just stalk them so effectively that they think they owe us something. Or something?