And yes, you’re definitely right that the family thing has a lot to do with our different views. Christmas for me is pretty much all about family. I try to do a little something for my friends (the common card, which I am so not going to manage, again); but I only buy presents for my family (and that’s my immediate family, not my extended). I CAN buy presents for my family and keep it special and meaningful. With friends it would be much harder, not to mention impossible in terms of finances and time. (I do actually occasionally do that spontaneous gift-giving thing with my friends, incidentally.)
Mmm, Midnight Mass. For that matter, mmm, Vespers. Was just trying to discuss with someone why I find Vespers amazingly uplifting, Bible passages and all, in spite of not being a believer. Must articulate that sometime.
Again, I tend to think that when people are non-intentional, that’s really their own problem. I am the ultimate “whatever works for you” person, and I’m careful to keep my own life and my own ceremonies as mindful as possible. It saddens me when others don’t, but that’s up to them. Until every last participant no longer finds true value in a ceremony, it still has true value and is worth maintaining (at least for them).
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Re: the defense, er, doesn't rest
Date: 2005-11-16 06:00 am (UTC)And yes, you’re definitely right that the family thing has a lot to do with our different views. Christmas for me is pretty much all about family. I try to do a little something for my friends (the common card, which I am so not going to manage, again); but I only buy presents for my family (and that’s my immediate family, not my extended). I CAN buy presents for my family and keep it special and meaningful. With friends it would be much harder, not to mention impossible in terms of finances and time. (I do actually occasionally do that spontaneous gift-giving thing with my friends, incidentally.)
Mmm, Midnight Mass. For that matter, mmm, Vespers. Was just trying to discuss with someone why I find Vespers amazingly uplifting, Bible passages and all, in spite of not being a believer. Must articulate that sometime.
Again, I tend to think that when people are non-intentional, that’s really their own problem. I am the ultimate “whatever works for you” person, and I’m careful to keep my own life and my own ceremonies as mindful as possible. It saddens me when others don’t, but that’s up to them. Until every last participant no longer finds true value in a ceremony, it still has true value and is worth maintaining (at least for them).