A random thought: me being a spiritual but not religious person, it seems to me that the things you value about your religious experience are the things that are most difficult for me to value and/or wish to experience. So I think I get the asexuality analogy, but from the opposite side.
My best friend commented that she has committed to a set of practices, including communal worship, which frequently do not result in spiritual experience, so the "spiritual but not religious" person might come across as saying, "Hey, I have spiritual experiences all the time, all by myself," which might be experienced negatively by someone for whom spiritual experiences are rare.
This makes me wonder - what is it that you and the BF get from this set of practices, if it's not a spiritual experience? What's valuable to you about what you do, religiously? I would be very curious to hear your answer about that, if you felt like answering. I think I have ideas about what religious practice can give someone (and how I, personally, can better get those things elsewhere), but maybe you're getting something else that I'm not thinking of.
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My best friend commented that she has committed to a set of practices, including communal worship, which frequently do not result in spiritual experience, so the "spiritual but not religious" person might come across as saying, "Hey, I have spiritual experiences all the time, all by myself," which might be experienced negatively by someone for whom spiritual experiences are rare.
This makes me wonder - what is it that you and the BF get from this set of practices, if it's not a spiritual experience? What's valuable to you about what you do, religiously? I would be very curious to hear your answer about that, if you felt like answering. I think I have ideas about what religious practice can give someone (and how I, personally, can better get those things elsewhere), but maybe you're getting something else that I'm not thinking of.